So I hadn’t planned on writing this.
I mostly want to focus on game, cold approach/pick-up and strategies guys can use to meet girls and get laid on this blog, but I think it’s a useful perspective, and expands both on what GLO said recently as well as what TheRedQuest has written about how women are random.
I’m going to go a step further and say that women really have no idea what they want when it comes to dating and men.
Logically, of course, they think they know what they want: stable, kind, handsome guy who’s available and willing to commit to a long-term relationship. This is what they’re told to want and women are biologically driven to fit in, so this is what she tells herself she is looking for…
Only she’s not.
Indeed, this is one of the main reasons the red pill exists. Or game, cold approach, or pick-up artistry in general. Because if women simply selected the kind of men society wanted them to select, none of what we do would really be necessary.
For example, a lot of guys like me were raised to believe: do well in school, play sports, stay fit, and be sorta cool, and eventually you’ll get chicks. Nothing could be further from the truth of course, a fact The Game awakened me to.
But it’s actually even more random than most guys think: other than looks, women really have no idea what the fuck they want out of a man, and it actually doesn’t even matter.
Hell, sometimes looks don’t even matter.
What women actually want is a strong, masculine presence with the skill to be dominant and lead her toward sex, which again is performed in a dominant, animalistic manner. Another reason why pick-up is so powerful–if you have the ability to talk to a random woman on the street and charm her into liking you and giving you her number, you’re implying that you can give her exactly what she wants from a man.
At the end of the day, women want to be desired by a man whose power equals or hopefully, exceeds her beauty. Todd V talks about the fact that for sex to happen, it has to be a win for the girl. One of the ways that happens is that your game/SMV exceeds her beauty.
This is why if you get good at this stuff, the women you have relationships with will eventually ask if you’re a player or fuckboy or sometimes just assume you have other women. When this first started happening to me I didn’t really understand: what had I done to suggest I’m a player? I never talk about other girls with the girl I’m with at the time and I’m always careful to avoid talking about the status of a relationship unless the girl brings it up… I didn’t get it.
But the girl does, and that is that she knows my SMV/game are strong enough to make me attractive to almost every other woman given the right context and situation, and because she knows (since I did it with her) that I’m capable of delivering what women truly want: a masculine, dominant frame who’s going to fuck them good.
Women can say they want a guy with a good job, or who’s kind/sweet, or who loves dogs and adventures, or cooking, or cross-fit, or what the fuck ever–and to be sure, guys who sleep with a lot of women have cool lifestyles and hobbies and interests and all that stuff, but none of that matters. It’s pure window dressing.
The other thing along with this is that when women are receptive to game changes from month-to-month, day-to-day. One day she’s a yes girl and if the right guy comes along and runs good game, she’ll fuck him–even if she’s got a boyfriend or husband. The next day she doesn’t even want to think about sex and will find it annoying to be hit on.
I have to say, this might be the most disappointing and confusing thing I’ve learned since taking the pill and getting into game: that most women are basically high level NPCs, far more driven by instinct, random chance, and emotions than any really logical set of goals, directives, or moral values.
With regard to other aspects of life, yes women can be logical–like paying the bills, getting groceries, taking care of kids, etc. But when it comes to dating, sex, and relationships, all of that shit goes right out the window.
So I guess the lesson here is simply to understand that most of what guys worry about when it comes to dating and sex doesn’t matter, especially if you’re coming at it as a player–in that case, she really doesn’t care how much money you make, what kind of car you drive, what your hobbies are, how many books you’ve read, or how cool your record collection is. Those things might lubricate the situation so that sex/a relationship can happen, but ultimately it’s your game and attractiveness that’s going to win or lose it for you.