Are all hot chicks constantly fucking Chads?

Short answer: no.

Now look, I’m not saying there aren’t girls out there who are absolute r-selected sluts, because there are–in fact, I suspect many of the girls I’ve fucked fall into this category.

Quick story about one of them–I can’t remember if I’ve written about this before, but it’s worth retelling.

So, chick seeks me out on Facebook (20 year old HB 7)–one of the few girls I’ve banged through online game as opposed to cold approach–and we have a quick little chat. I suggest we get together for a movie. She says great, then on the appointed day, texts me that she’s bringing a bottle of vodka and we’re doing shots.

We all know what happened next.

I put on the movie, we do some shots, then I start kissing her and we end up in the bedroom shortly after. When she wakes up in the morning, she proceeds to tell me I’m the 45th guy she’s slept with; she keeps track on the note-taking app on her phone. Anyway, just an absolute thot–and yes, I wrapped the rascal thank you very much.

I ended up fucking her one more time after about a week later, but then she was off to the next bro. Easy come, easy go. So yes, there are definitely girls out there who are like that. No doubt.

But from what I can tell based on the other chicks I’ve known, dated, and fucked, as well as conversations I’ve had with other players, most chicks aren’t like that, contrary to what a lot of redpill guys on Reddit and Twitter are constantly trumpeting.

No, for most chicks there are phases, stages, and conditions they pass through that determines their level of sexual availability, and it wavers between r-selected and k-selected.

Reminder:

  • R-selected = highly promiscuous, will have one night stands, prioritizes guys who are HAWT before everything else. Needs more value, less comfort.
  • K-selected = needs multiple dates before sex, has boyfriends, prioritizes guys who are stable, successful, and closer to their social circle. Needs more comfort, less value.

Phases and Stages of R vs. K Selection

Stage 1: the first thottery.

In the first phase of life, somewhere between 16-24 (may last longer), chicks go through an r-selected phase where they feel extremely promiscuous, but may or may not act on it as supremely as most guys think. Much of it has to do with opportunity.

For some it will be the fact they have a boyfriend and/or family who are heavily mate guarding, so she doesn’t have that many opportunities. For others, let’s face it–she can thot it up on IG and get all kinds of attention from thirsty betas, but her thirst for attention somewhat quenched through this false validation, may or may not actually have sex with that many guys. Finally, maybe she does bang quite a few guys in college or in her social circle during this time, but there’s a bit of a soft cap there in that if she goes too crazy, she’s going to develop a reputation, and most chicks will do anything possible to avoid being labeled a slut.

A final point I’ll make in addition to the above, is that chicks are so flighty and flakey and ghosty these days, they check their own r-selection tendencies merely as a result of being anxious, over-emotional people.

The exception, of course, are girls like the one I described above, who upon turning 18, get a job, say, as a hostess or waitress or some other low paying customer service position, get on Tinder, and proceed to rack up massive numbers of dudes, because they don’t really have any social pressure to keep it under wraps.

Stage 2: K-selection through social pressure.

The next phase or stage usually happens between 22-28, when she wants a stable boyfriend who has husband potential (k-selected), so they can do really cute photogenic things together–like owning a dog or going to holiday parties or traveling–that she can post on IG, absorbing all those warm-fuzzy likes from parents and friends and coworkers, “Awhhh, pretty girl being exactly who society’s told her to be!” Girls enter this stage kind of organically, when their friends start to have serious boyfriends and/or their parents start saying, “why don’t you get a nice boyfriend (implied: you little fucking slut)?”

Here, one of three things happen:

  1. She does and after some period of time gets married.
  2. She does, but the LTR melts down after a few years, and she becomes single again.
  3. She tries, but can’t stop fucking Chads who are 1-2 points above her SMV and is thereby pumped and dumped constantly.

Stage 3: short re-entry into R-selection.

Ironically, for 1 or 2, at whatever point the relationship breaks down, she enters an r-selected phase again–and here’s where in my estimation, chicks are capable of racking up a crazy n-count. Why? Because they’re no longer in a close social group where they’ll be judged for it, and it’s justified by society, the: “well, she just got out of a relationship,” shrug emoji reaction. The younger she is when this happens, the higher the n-count.

The 3’s are the most frustrating for the player, because you can easily bang them, but then they start pressing hard for a relationship–“where is this going?” and all that noise. These chicks will basically stay in this phase until she either actually gets realistic (less common) or is weened out of the market by the wall (more common).

Stage 4: K-selection by necessity.

For the others, eventually they calm down, usually after 6 months to 2 or 3 years and re-enter a k-selected phase of looking for a long term relationship and marriage–single moms included (although see below for more on that).

This tends to be the trend for women 30+ for the rest of their lives, with the exception of women who get divorced a bit later and figure out that they have nothing more to offer the world than their thottery.

Conditions: girls on vacation, the globetrotting waif, and small town Sallys.

To be honest, where chicks in any phase or stage are most likely to fuck with abandon is on vacation or abroad, which is why you see so many +1’s from girls who are traveling.

On vacation it’s simple: as long as she’s not traveling with parents or pairing up with a friend, there’s no one to judge her actions. Parents are obvious blocks, but any day gamer knows that when you come across girls who are paired up on vacation, it’s very difficult to break through, unless they’re somehow up for a threesome, because the slut shaming if one of them breaks away is implicit–probably explicit as well (“OMG, we have three days here–I can’t believe you went out with that random guy!”).

Otherwise, the game is afoot.

“Girls trips” are especially thotty, as they’re often drunken affairs specifically put together/engineered so chicks can bang guys other than their boyfriend or husband. A point here is that chicks are always in search of male validation. When men vacation together, we fish or hunt or camp or gamble, often without any expectation of women being involved. Women don’t do this–they go to a beach, Vegas, a resort, or Europe, where they go out dressed to the 9’s hoping rich, handsome men will hit on them.

For similar reasons, the globetrotting waif also tends to be r-selected–at least, as first. This is the girl, who, after college or spinning her wheels wherever she grew up, decides to pack her bags and move to a cool city away from her friends and family–in the U.S. think places like Austin, LA, Portland, NY, Denver, Asheville, Seattle, etc.

Part of reason here is that at first, she’s lonely–her social network is going to be very small in this new environment, and one of the principle ways she can ameliorate this is to bang guys. She’s also in a mind set where she’s experimenting, trying new things, and even if she happens to like a guy quite a bit, she’s reticent to settle down as this limits maximizing her experience.

However, after a year or two in the new digs, she enters that k-selection phase–if not to appease her social circle watching on IG, then to bring stability into her life.

The opposite of girls on vacation or traveling are chicks who live in small communities. They may feel the compulsion to be r-selected, but they can’t for two really strong reasons:

  1. Everyone knows everyone and everything in smaller towns.
  2. There aren’t that many options in terms of guys who are attractive/successful.

For those reasons, my advice to guys who want to get married would be to move to a smaller town and find your little darlin. The girl you meet in a small town at the coffee shop, church, local festival, or even at a restaurant or bar, is likely to have a low n-count and tend toward k-selection, because if she was r-selected, she would have moved to the suburbs or city.

Takeaways and Observations

The reality is that even chicks in r-selected phases, whether the first, when they’re young, or the second, when they’re older, might not actually be having all that much sex with all that many dudes. Chicks spend a lot of time with their families, going wine tasting, getting brunch with girlfriends, staying in, watching TV shows with other chicks, focusing on school or career, and find all kinds of other excuses not to go out and fuck a bunch of guys.

Again, sure, some portion of chicks do, and there are definitely a lot of slutty girls out there, but in this case, not AWALT.

I point this out because it’s implied in the redpill community that every girl is constantly boning a Chad, and if that were actually the case, the world would be a whole lot better and easier. No, the truth is, even for most Chads, it’s hard to get laid because most chicks don’t just wantonly go from guy to guy to guy. It’s a lot more complicated than that.

One final point I want to make about single moms–a realization I had recently as to why they’re so problematic to date or have relationships with: their kids come first–as they should.

However, as such, she’s stuck between r/k selection. She’s not firmly k-selected because she can’t commit to a guy and won’t ever love him fully the way she loves her kids (they’re not his, after all). However, she has kids, so she’s not r-selected either, because she’s at least hypothetically looking for a guy who’s stable, successful, and not a player. But because she’s busy and doesn’t get a whole lot of male attention, there’s nothing she loves more than getting noticed by a Chad.

In other words, she’s willing to fuck guys for both r and k selected reasons, but doesn’t really know what she wants, so she’ll try to force the r-selected player to become a provider, but she’ll grow bored with the provider because he doesn’t give her the feelz.

That sounds funny, but it’s not. My friend’s next door neighbor recently committed suicide after marrying a single mom, only to have her tell him a few years later she wanted a divorce.

By all accounts he was a great guy: a Mr. Fix-It type who loved her children as if they were his own and owned a prosperous business, etc. But it wasn’t enough for her. So a word of caution guys: if you’re going to date single moms, understand that you’re far better off to do it as a player than a provider.

Anyway, to return to the overall point, chicks aren’t as slutty as they’re made out to be, and most aren’t either completely r or k selected–rather, they go through phases and respond to conditions. In other words, just because a chick turns you down for a date doesn’t mean she’s fucking someone better. She might be, but she might also be folding laundry and watching Netflix.

Don’t panic.

5 thoughts

  1. Great breakdown. That’s what I’ve seen in my experience as well.

    One point to add is that even when girls are r selected or in a slut phase they still have their standards. She may be DTF but you’ll still have to be attractive to her and game her, and be her best option as well. To your point this is why getting laid takes effort even for the chads

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  2. The guys who think all women are fucking 10+ guys per year are almost never the ones fucking a lot of girls.

    Guys who do spend a lot of time around girls, but who are not great looking or famous or whatever, have a different perspective.

    Some really good looking guys think girls are all sluts… because if you’re in the top 1% of guys looks-wise, that is your reality… it is not the reality for the rest of us.

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    1. I think there’s some truth to it. I mean, if she’s fuck tons of dudes and that’s her reality, what can you say for her ability to be a good partner and/or mom? Probably not much. So I think that’s still something to consider–my point was simply that even for those girls with a high n-count, they’re not just constantly fucking. To Magnum’s point.

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